Just discovered affair please help

[PunkinsMom]

I honestly think that if I had not had the whole health scare, that he would have never admitted the truth. I don't understand why they need to hang onto the lies. Especially my H, knowing I had already forgiven him. BUT...what really makes me go hmmmmmmm, is wondering why OW lied about it. I mean, you would think she would have said "Hell yeah, we do it like bunnies" to get me to go ahead and dump him, because at that point, he was trying to break off all contact with her, and she was REALLY digging in. In fact, she stalked him/us for 18 months AFTER he told her they were done and he was staying with me. You would think she would have used any means necessary. She even went so far as to follow him to THREE different jobs, even taking a job as a DUMP TRUCK DRIVER so she could continue working with him LMAO!!! So the fact that she lied and said "I told him I would not sleep with him as long as he was with YOU" just blows my mind! I still shake my head over that one.

I also need to be honest and say that if it had not been for my S, I don't think I would have asked him to come home, but I can't be sure about that 100%. Even so, it took 4 years after he dumped her for me to forgive. So yes, it is a long process when they are NOT willing to tell the truth. And trust me, you will go back and forth questioning your sanity and going, "Well, maybe he IS telling the truth, but then again, he did this and this and this, and so I KNOW he is lying, but then again...." LOL I rode that ride for many years.

I can tell you that now, I rarely even think about it. Thank heavens!! It WILL get better with time.