After the 37 rules...

[Cadet]

-Surely at some point, a R conversation has to happen. If the WAS never says anything about it or mentions anything about it, should the LBS never bring it up?

Right now you are not in CONTROL of this R,
you can TEST the waters from time to time with NO EXPECTATIONS.
When you are back in CONTROL you will be starting a NEW relationship the old one is NOW dead.

-If it looks like the WAS may be thawing even just a little bit, why can’t the LBS try something that puts the olive branch out there to see what will happen – even if it’s somewhat pursuing?

This is a touch and go. I suggest waiting for the real thing.
If you bake a cake and it is half done, how do you think it will taste?

-Don’t send TMs or emails throughout the day. Again, if you sense that your WAS is thawing even the slightest why not send one? *shrug*

If you can do it with NO EXPECTATIONS and when you touch the stove that the cake is baking in that does not look hot, don't be surprised if you get burned. Sure go ahead.

Granted, I don’t think I’m anywhere near a R at this point. I just see lots of people getting 2x4s for pursuing their WAS. My DB coach basically told me to pursue my H, even if it’s at a slow pace.

Their are different types of pursuit and distance.
Pursue in the types that you have been distancing for your whole maairage, but do not pursue if it is the same behavior that has pushed him away.

If I do something, and H responds positively, I get the don’t have expectations thing. At what point SHOULD I have expectations?

NEVER!

Again, nowhere close to R my marriage, but I am trying to figure out a balance here.

Hope that helps.