either way, the OP will show their true colors, sooner or later (I know we all would prefer "sooner")...I saw it the first time around, seeing it now...just have to wait for them to "figure it out" that OP is just a fantasy...
My IC suggested I move out...ummm...no...I am NOT leaving my kids, my house, my life, even if I could float the extra $$$...
I like her (my IC) for other issues, but not marriage at the moment (I do think she'll be great with M boundaries and piecing, however).
What can you do for YOU right now? You have time now, while he figures out his sh_t, for you and what you want you and your life to be like.
I have found the mediation that I found for vets with ptsd at patriotoutreach to be very helpful (be still and know exercise) through my sitch...all about forgiveness, making allowances, etc.
Also, search on the forum for the MLC "recipe"...very helpful.
my .03
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In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
