My Story So Far. Is this even worth saving?

[CallieIsSpooky]

I'm new here, and don't know anything about the Divorce Busting program yet. But I wanted to offer hugs. I'm really sorry your husband is so dishonest with you about his EA. I do remember reading somewhere that giving up an EA is really hard on people, and that it often takes time and patience for the split to happen. So I suppose that is where you have to decide if you can be that patient. I don't know what I would do if it were me. It's not my husband's style to develop feelings for anyone, let alone me. He did have a couple of ONS, but it was within the first months of our dating and I didn't find out about them until about two years later & we were married, so it seemed kind of moot. (Good old email! When will people learn to not write anything down?) I had trust issues for awhile, but it's years later now & I don't even think about it anymore. It's even possible he's had a few recently. He disappears a lot, lost weight etc. But my situation is entirely different. For some reason I really don't care. I guess I'm no help to you sweetie, but I hope that you work things out if that is what you wish! Is that what you want?

I once went to counseling with a boyfriend who cheated. The counselor told us that I should write out all my resentments in a long, detailed letter, leaving nothing out. Then read it to him. He was to respond until I was satisfied with his response. Then I was to throw the letter away, and never bring up the past again. I thought it was good advice, but we ended up breaking up for different reasons. The cheating was only part of it.