On the subject of time: I have about 4 months before a big crossroads. But right now I have to start making some decisions. We have talked about divorce and divorce agreements, etc. My new decision is to allow her to initiate those talks if she wants, and to not be a party to the filing of the divorce (I'll discuss terms, but she will have to "serve me papers"). After a week of that discussion not going forward, this morning she says she has found an apartment nearby. We had agreed that at the end of the month I would move out for my first turn away, and then she would take her turn. I am reconsidering this, and would really appreciate advice here. I definitely won't move out (even for "my turn") before we have a clear, signed agreement. But should I up it to "I won't move out unless I am forced to, or unless I am convinced it is best for me and the kids"? Thanks to everyone here. I don't feel as alone.
