PTC...so many here from Pensacola....read "if you like pina colladas thread"...she's from there
All of our sitches are the same yet each has its own flavor (even if it tastes like bile). You know how they say do what works? I agree with that. Common sense should not be rejected just to try to follow some DB rule to the letter. Like Mach says, if you see his comments around here, DB'ing is a state of mind. It's one we work harder than anything else to achieve.
If you and H have pratical matters that have to be resolved then by all means do them. And with kids too. What we all try to achieve her is reaching that state of mind. DB'ing is really about a few things: learning about how you got yourself here - find it, evaluate it, learn from it, improve your life; taking control of your life and happiness; letting your spouse walk thru their own journey; having faith in the processes of the divine (however you define it) to work with you - and this is important, work with him.
If you can achieve this you will find deep contentment. It may be hard to believe right now. I swear to you it can happen. See DB'ing is sooooo hard (pt 5) if you want to see my story. maybe it will help.
