Need to get it out....

[Truegritter]

I know it hurt her because she was able to see in his face how much he missed him Mom.

Let her feel her own guilt.

As we say, guilt is good and can help her move forward and I'm all for it except not guilt applied by you.

You didn't in this instance.

This is tough stuff Lost and you have to be mindful of what is happening in the moment.

As Cadet suggested, be aware of your old ways.

Keep stepping toward the new guy you are becoming.