I'm sorry that you're finding yourself in this situation.
I don't want to be a downer, but just a tip based on my own recent experience. My H of 15 years was completely amicable UNTIL we started talking finances. He turned into something completely alien, out of fear, when he started to see what splitting up would really mean for his lifestyle.
Just saying, be prepared to have to fight to protect yourself. Your H may go feral like mine did.
