It's been 7 years for me too, DavidA, so I understand. This year is the year it ends for me. I'm done. My H will have to jump through a lot of hoops for me to believe he would want me.
You are lucky that you have gotten D'ed already, and have no real ties, except with the children. I still have to go through all that, and am not looking forward to it.
Take care, and good luck with your new life.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Best thing for all concerned is to communicate and have an open mind. Most of all be fair with each other and keep the damned lawyers out of the equation. Work out between the two of you and bring it to the judge.
In the short term this is much more of a difficult thing to do. But in the long term it will save you both alot of money and heart ache. I know. Been there, done that. When we finally were able to sit down together we had it all worked out in a couple of hours. The judge was impressed, the lawyers were pissed ;-)
You vote with your feet. Divorce final 12/24/2004 I Give Up !
Yes, that's the way we will go, as long as he's honest and fair. He is the one who has control over our finances, and he doesn't allow me in too much. I've mostly been the SAHM, unless we need the extra money, then I will go out to work as secretaries or receptionist. I am at uni now trying to get a degree, so I can earn my own money. But, I think he will have to pay me alimony until I'm on my feet. I lost a lot of time getting over a bout with cancer ... got lots of making up to do re jobs. I do want at least one appointment with an attorney to check what my rights are, and where to go from there. I have found one who also does mediation, and that may be the way to go.
Thanks for the advice.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
I so respect you for what you have achieved. When I separated from my exh I explained to him that once he walked out the door there would be no going back for me; I did not want a yo-yo marriage. That was exactly what my ex wanted. He actually said that he wanted to "try" new woman and come back if it didn't work out for him.
Anyway much respect to you for your resilience and tenacity. I think that you deserve to let go and move on now :-)
