Quote: Quote: Are any of you struggling with reconciling who your H's are today, who you thought they were pre A, and who they were DURING the night mare?
YES!!!
You've nailed it. It's as though there are three different people I've been calling H all of these years. Although they all look the same, they are distinctly different in personality, character and moral aptitude.
Body snatchers?
Right now, I'm trying to get to know the fella who's been hanging around the house and sleeping in my bed. I'm not really sure who HE is.
I mean... I like him a lot and think he's swell and all (in fact, he's my favorite so far) - but is he a permanent resident or just a temporary guest? Am I to expect a fourth personality to show up some day?
You have both hit the nail on the head. I've talked about this a bit on my thread lately, and it is a big issue for me. I keep looking at him and wondering if I really know him--is he going to take off a mask and be somebody else at any moment, capable of doing incredibly awful things, or is he a wiser version of the man I love who just whacked out for a while? It's very hard to reconcile, and I basically is about being afraid to trust and let myself be vulnerable again.
