Thanks you guys, You are really making it possible for me to keep going with your support and feedback.
I am reading and re-reading what you've had to say, and please be assured, it is helping.
My H has been frantic today with texts, as it appears that his time for renewing the lease is really running out.
I've basically said I'll sign as long as he agrees to a separation doc that sets out what each of us is responsible for paying for in terms of the kids, house, shared debts.
At the 11th-hour he finally agreed to this. But then almost immediately he reneged, and said it was a waste of time.
Said if I didn't sign I'd soon find myself walking from a housing trust (i.e. welfare sponsored) home in Suburb X (a notorious lower-class neighbourhood that is miles away from the city where we now live).
Charming!
Then he said he has instructed his L to draft divorce papers (not sure that this can be done before 12 months in our state) and had put a caveat on the house (this was delivered by registered mail today).
I stayed clam and patient and said why don't we try for a sep doc - and he eventually told me to do whatever I liked :
"You do what you have to do to get this done. I am tired of the discussion - be aware that I will not be negotiating terms so if you think you need to change a little detail here and there don't waste your time and money. If you want to spend another $500 on a 'maybe' then go for it. It is entirely up to you - I don't care. Your money - do whatever you please. Just leave me alone and make a decision."
He seems to be at breaking point - almost hysterical and flipping back and forth with every changing moment. And all this over a car....
Quite scary, in fact.
I have the feeling that if H can't 'win' this one, that will be it.
It's like a battle of the wills for him. Doesn't matter that it's irrational to just take his word for it that I'll be able to pay for a new car for myself. I just have to do what he tells me; he needs desperately to be able to have his way.
He might be right, it may be the only way we can keep things afloat, financially.
Or he may be delusional, seriously so, and I may sink our little ship by trying to stop and save him from drowning.
