My friend said it upset her so bad she went home and was throwing up. Don't know why she waits til now to tell me.
Ummm...ya! What kind of friend doesn't come and tell you your H is cheating on you? Not a very good one.
AS for your H - really, it is ridiculous, isn't it, the way they'll lie straight to your face when caught with their hand in the cookie jar? Really - he's been going over to her house on weekends but he has to lie about when it started now?
The way I see it, Wen, there are a few paths ahead.
1) OW does something stupid to turn H off, or you continue being your cute and interesting self, and he gradually leans back home. This actually ISN'T a good option, because unless he can own up to his own behavior and take responsibility for it, you'll be looking over your shoulder forevermore.
2) H wakes up and comes out of his fog and wants to work on the marriage (mind you, this might not happen until after you separate or start dating another guy - see nblost's thread in Infidelity). If this happens, you need to be careful to make him do the work of figuring out his stuff, counseling and everything else.
3) You separate and you discover how nice your life is without him, how much more appreciative other men can be, how much more pleasant life is without his nonsense - in which case, you won't want him back, but you'll be happier anyway.
