I just watched "Princess Bride" with the kids -- such a good movie.

In any case, be careful even with the "Sweet Dreams". A good rule to follow is to "follow and mirror, do not lead" when it comes to affection.

You have to give space for the other person to want to lead. If you fill that void, it makes it harder.

FWIW, historically I've wanted a certain level of affection and intimacy in our marriage. I always felt that if I didn't drive that, then it wouldn't happen, and it felt bad and unnatural not having it.

What I've learned is that the more you can hold back, the more your partner can step up. If you don't hold back, they will NEVER step up, and you are, in effect, crowding them out.

Just something to think about.

Accuray

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015