I have also had a HUGE problem with porn, and it is tough to kick, especially with the internet being like the world's biggest free candy store for porn addicts. For me it has only started to subside in my mid 40s, and part of that is because I am so busy all the time. I can only say pray plenty and always forgive yourself and start over if you slip.
As far as LRT is concerned, I think that you should do that. First of all, if she is convinced that OM is all that, she doesn't want you to pursue her, and you trying to do so will only make her retreat further into his arms. You may have a chance to look good to her, but only if you look like someone who can enjoy his life independent of her - I think it is likely that the last thing she will be attracted to is someone who seems like he needs her.
The second reason you really should consider LRT is because of the chance that she won't come back to you no matter what you do. If that is the case (and I really, truly, hope it is not), then you will need to GAL and make yourself happy not to convince her, but to reclaim your own life and be ready to face the world on your own. So, basically, do the LRT as though it is for real - because it may be - and pray that it is not.
I think that doing the LRT may help you to feel better.
You don't have to feel like you're Dan Quixote; getting your own life back together will accomplish something. I'm keeping a good thought for you.
Think about it...if you met a potential mate who was nothing but a bundle of needs, would YOU be attracted to them?
