Husband left me...feel hopeless

[hopingandpraying]

Yes, I was definitely worried that this would happen again because I do truly believe he is unhappy with himself and regrets some life decisions (like getting out of the Marines.) When he was trying to earn my trust back, he was staying in a lot, doing things for me, writing me love emails, and buying me thoughtful gifts. We also went on little trips. These things were all GREAT and I appreciated and loved all of them, but I just had this feeling that he still wasn't convinced of his life with me.

During this phase, we were acting like ourselves, having fun, but I know that I was holding back a little because I didn't complete trust it. However, he kept telling me that he was in it for life and that I was the one!!! I just kept having this feeling though!

So now three weeks ago, he told me that he has no feelings for me and he wants to start his whole life over. He has what everyone wants: a great wife, a house, dog, cat, new cars, but he's still not happy, so he said that his marriage was the thing that was making him the most unhappy. I find this very hard to believe because we have had a great year!!! I also think he ran scared because I told him on New Year's Day that I wasn't happy with my progress in trusting him again and he cried and has been pulling away from me since!!! That's when he then dropped the bomb three weeks ago!!! So, yes, he said I have no feelings for you and I want to start my life over without you and I'm starting with you...then he's going to get a new job, move, and who knows what else.

As for my support network, I have great friends and family who are keeping me busy. It's just so hard because the one person I want to keep me busy doesn't want me. I don't know how to maintain hope in our relationship....