WAW in Los Angeles

[wawinla]

How would you like the D process to go? You've read my sitch so for me... I wanted to be as loving as possible.. to both my w and myself...

... so I've been going at my pace... against W's wants.

I know your w has all these wants.. but NOW is the time to take care of WLA. What does he want?

Val:

Thanks for chronicling your journey...it has helped me beyond words.

In terms of the D process, my WAW has tried to speed up the process so she can get on with her life. When I exert my right to go at my pace, she accuses me of being an obstructionist. I know that accommodating her does nothing for me and that it's not going to miraculously change her mind, but it's a battle nonetheless and part of grieving the end of our M. Throughout the process, despite the fact she has broken my heart and my trust, I try and work to understand her POV and to find solutions that are not based on retribution but upon mutual respect and acceptable to both of us. Sadly it's in the attorneys hands now, but in light of my health circumstances, I'm okay with letting go of certain issues as there are much important things going on in my life.

Right now, I'm focusing on what's best for me as I go forward!