our sitches do seem very similar. i also am guilty of being the "fixer" of our r-ship, and its been SO SO hard to detach and shut my mouth/walk away when the "old me" would want to hash things out. i'm getting there though,and I'm sure you are too!
and i can totally relate to your point about sometimes being so angry and not being sure if you even still want to be with your H and other times just wanting to help him. i'm struggling with this myself, and it's good to know that i'm not alone.
no matter what happens though with our h's, i'm confident that we'll both grow from this and that things will turn out for the best.
