IMO, you shouldn't have to feel the need to leave your home because H is coming over. Detaching doesn't mean avoiding. What would you be doing at home if H wasn't coming over?
As far as his heart issues, that is pretty scary. If he's reaching out, let him know you hear his concern. I've not been in your sitch but from other threads, I've seen other LBSers offer assistance and the WAS take them up on it. Might be an opportunity. But if he declines, then accept it and back off.
Take care.
Agree all around. It would be kind of you to offer support to him when he is sick and scared. That is not being a doormat, but a good person. But yes, if he declines, don't push it. Shortly after the bomb, my H went to the emergency room with chest pains. He called me and I insisted on coming even though he didn't want me there. I thought it was my duty as his wife to be there for him. Well, I was in the ER with him for 8 hours. It was unpleasant, and I could feel he didn't want me there. It caused bad feelings because I felt unappreciated and H felt infringed upon. If he wants your help, he will appreciate you. Otherwise, it could backfire. Hope he is OK.
Mimi
M:37; H:37; M:10 years;T:13 years;no kids. Bomb ("I love you, but don't feel things for you I should":1/08/12 Separated (H living with various friends:1/18/12 Separated (H rented his own apartment:3/4/12
