Specifics, please! Can't afford telephone consult!

[ces67]

IMO, you shouldn't have to feel the need to leave your home because H is coming over. Detaching doesn't mean avoiding. What would you be doing at home if H wasn't coming over?

As far as his heart issues, that is pretty scary. If he's reaching out, let him know you hear his concern. I've not been in your sitch but from other threads, I've seen other LBSers offer assistance and the WAS take them up on it. Might be an opportunity. But if he declines, then accept it and back off.

Take care.