I didn't see it coming...but now I see everything

[jlove]

This is the same stich I found myself in. We madeup after EA bomb and were very active sexually for us and I assumed all was well. Then about 2 months later I found them talking in a bar at 3 am and after we left she got home and I got "i cannot take this anymore, i need my own place, etc."

So, almost 2 months later after 2nd bomb, no sex, W still here, no contact with OM, but W is of mindset "taking it day by day and trying my best to do what's right."

So we went from me thinking all was ok while she was "faking it? trying?" to "I have to have my own space," to "I'm trying to do the right thing." Of course, D14 found out about OM shortly after bomb 2 and let W have it, so that was some of the impetus of her and non contact w OM.

I suggest from my experience, you lower your expectations and take it slow, hard as it may be (I know how hard it is!!!). This is no quick and easy fix.