Quote: No conclusion was reached except for the knowledge that the healing process is not completed for us -- no matter how wonderful our R's with our H's are.
Someday I hope to have healed and forgiven to the point of being able to finally let go of that tangible evidence of one of my H's betrayals (there were 3 all told). Sometimes I think that I must let it go NOW in order to truely heal -- but I can't. Not yet.
I can't explain it either, but I'm just not willing to destroy those photo's or any of the other evidence I have stashed away.
I too, pull out the photos from time to time and find it brings some rather unpleasant feelings to the surface.
There's something inexplicable about the whole process of deciding if and when I will pull them out and then ruminate over them a while.
Even the ritual of putting them back in there place and leaving them alone until I decide to pull them out again, is somehow therapeutic in an odd sort of way.
The resulting anger from looking at those photo's holds on to me less and less as I repeat the process.
Oh yea, I've never been face to face with the OW (not sure how I would respond if I were ) so I talk to her through the photo.
I tell her "I'm still his wife, and you are ... HISTORY!"
Quote: my H's betrayals (there were 3 all told)
Oh Mattie... I'm so sorry to hear this.
You are to be commended for your patience and strength.
) so I talk to her through the photo.
