You DB to save you, sometimes the marriage is saved. That's said a lot around here.
You can't control what H does, only what you do.
You do need to protect yourself and your children financially. You are not at the point of thinking about reconciliation now, you have other steps to complete.
Have you talked to an attorney?
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss