another thing i've been wondering about is: clearly, i want to continue to db & save my marriage. but at the end of the day, if H insists on D, would getting my fair share of the settlement (ie asking for alimony) even if H doesn't like or agree to the terms preclude a reconciliation down the line? this is all probably anti-detachment thinking, but what do u guys think?
what's been so hard lately is continuing to DB and "act as if" even when i know H is moving towards D.
