YOu cannot make him come to his senses - he alone culd do that. However, if you want to try to save your M, don't do anything drastic, think it out, breathe and concentrate first on yourself.
Follow the 37 rules - they are a lifesaver.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go