Therefore, I don't think leaving is the answer until such time as I have grown beyond seeking the same patterns of abuse and have gotten to a place where I'm not going to be responsible for the same issues in the future that I have been responsible for in the past.
I do realize that in many ways "it's all about me", and that's why I don't think that leaving in the answer right now.
Two things: 1. When you say "it's all about me," are you simply acknowledging your role/contribution and working on that, or are you addressing a selfishness in your R? 2. When you say "until such time," is it because that's your future plan or are you simply considering/doubtful/questioning the viability of living this way long-term? Or perhaps there really is nothing significant to the statement other than face value.
