Hey Horse, just caught up on your sitch. That's awful stuff, man. It's good that you want to work for your marriage, many people don't have the patience to stick by the vows they made, especially when faced with issues like the one your W has...
I found the article after reading your post yesterday. It all made sense. Never thought I'd be glad to be nagged! It's infrequent for me, but it does still happen (I guess when I do stuff that irks her).
180s... Lord, have I done some 180s! In addition to the first big initial steps of stopping pursuit, I've quit drinking (22 days sober), taken a more active role in our S's life, gotten back into church (in a big way), get more housework done around the house (I was already involved in it, but I go a bit further now), etc. There are probably things I'm forgetting about, but those are the biggies.
I actually had a much easier time with GAL when W wasn't around, but it was still HARD to do. Compared to what it's like now that she's back, however... it's considerably more difficult.
Me: 31 W: 28 M: almost 6 T: 10.5 S2 Bomb#1: 05/11 Bomb#2: 11/11 S'd: 11/28/11 Moved back in: 12/28/11 MC: 06/28/12
