H is losing it. He's not sleeping, he left today but was in and out of our bedroom at least 6 times last night.
H is mad I filed for divorce and retained an attorney. I told him I needed to protect myself financially...and the filing truly protects both of us. It seemed like seeing the filing hit him between the eyes.
He was also trying to tell me he hasn't spent that much on OW and she actually pays for a lot of their travel. I got sick of hearing about it and told him to "f*** off". He came back later and I said I still just can't understand how he could go on vacation while I'm home with the kids.
He was in our bedroom the night before last. He said he just needed to hear my breathing..."it's comforting".
He's losing control. And, he's realizing I'm moving on.
For anyone who gave me the advice to stop putting up with this--it was the right advice! But, I had to get to this point where I'm detached and willing to take the risk.
Stay tuned...
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Try not to get sucked into these convos with him anymore: don't "jump into the pit" with him. When he brings up anything legal or financial, just say something like "Unfortunately, this is now a legal situation and I guess the lawyers and the courts will have to sort that all out, from our financial disclosures. I really don't understand how it all works, but I'll be relying on my attorney for that." Or, shorter, just "I guess we'll have to discuss all these things with our attorneys now."
I know it's hard, but try to remain unemotional -- no more "f*c* off" comments, missy! Much better to say "I'm really sorry you feel that way," or just "smile and wave" as we used to say around here.
Much better to say "I'm really sorry you feel that way," or just "smile and wave" as we used to say around here. 
