just have to believe being with him for over 17 yrs has to be worth something and make him come to his senses!
I feel for you, my W was everything for 20+...it was worth something, you know that, your H does know that somewhere inside, though he is probably hiding it away at the moment.
He has to come to his own senses, we cannot do that for them.
We can show that WE are better than we were, and show that the R will be better than before. And show this consistently over time. That is what we can control. And this is hard to accept (at least it was for me, being a habitual "fixer").
YOU are showing your children that M is worth something, that M and people are not disposable.
Someone else in another thread wrote this, I find it gets me through the tough days:
"Ever wonder if maybe...just maybe, you were chosen to deal with this because a greater power knows that inside...you can handle this?"
Let that sink in and strengthen you. T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
