I think since you told your H that you wanted to take it slowly, he is handing the reins to you. I don't know how you assess his readiness as well. If you feel you are ready for more, maybe you should bring it up with him? But no pushing!
I just had a huge set back myself from pushing. In my case its my H who wants to move slowly, and I became impatient. I have no time to post yet, and so I haven't, but will soon as I think its a good lesson for piecers.
Regarding politeness, I think it is better that way than without it! Think about it as stating over again.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
