I see you have more than one thread so I'll copy this here too:
A lot of us have been up against a time crunch, and have gotten the resulting, vague platitudes: "Time is on your side" and all that. I have read what little you have been able to post of your sitch and see that your child is already being coerced into lying to you by her dad. Despicable! So, "TIME" is not going to help that immediate prob. Get legal advice and see about a separation agreement to protect yourself and your child financially. I have seen too many cases where a LBS is too frozen in fear to make "demands" on the "poor, fogged out WAS." Don't panic; this does not mean you will be divorced tomorrow, just make some sound decisions right now and don't worry that they may "drive WAS further away." BS!!! He's already "away" and you do not have to consider selling anything at this very moment. Put your foot down and take some of your power and dignity back. He may "get angry." STFW? You are fighting for your child's well being. What sort of father would get "angry" at that? A really selfish, uncaring one!!
