Keeping the Kids Out of It

[PrincessP]

If anyone can speak to this unnerving situation of having put our four-year old daughter in bed with a strange woman. Since my H walked out two months, we have not any conversation/sit down with her as to why Daddy does not live in the house anymore. Heck, my H and I haven’t even spoken. As far as our D4 knows he is working (given his profession it’s not uncharacteristic) albeit this highly out of the ordinary to have him gone EVERY night for two months. She has no clue that he does not technically live with us anymore and we are not a family.

In general society, if a man (even if invited by the mom) were to lay down in a bed with a minor child they would be questioned about their morals or maybe called a sexual deviant for not having better or good judgment for this action. As a woman myself and a strong one at that, women should be held to the same standard. I think my H would go ballistic if I put our D4 in bed with another man and me. While there is no formula for when new SOs should be introduced to your children, I would imagine that throwing them into a bed with your kids is not an appropriate first encounter.

Anyone I share this scenario with, even other dads, are completely creeped out by the thought. What must our child be thinking.

Any advice?