Can you please help?

[fightForMyHubby5]

Thank you Rick,

I was starting to worry that I did something wrong since my posts weren't shown . Do you mean the 37 rules of the 180? I already have them printed out and stuck in my purse

His complains were that:
1. He always was doing everything to please me (I had no idea that he didn't want some of the stuff I wanted together...).
2. I was often dragging him to the shops on Saturday mornings (I agreed not to do that and things were fine).
3. I was getting upset that we did not spend much time together (he works 09:00-18:00 on weekdays and then goes to gym 3 times/week and gets home at 20:30, I finish everyday at 14:30, having plenty of time to go to the gym before he comes home). After discussing this issue we agreed that it is ok for him to go to the gym as it is something that pleases him.
4. That my family was too "traditional". My parents are happy to have us for lunch every 2 Sundays. He didn't like that...

Do you believe that these issues are so important for a couple to D?

I respect his concerns and told him that I am willing to work on them. That was before reading DB and DR, from which I;ve learned that "actions speak louder than words". So I have started working on these issues. I have become more indepenant, going out with friends and rejoined my gym club. I have also joined some new hobbies (being a volunteer and learning italian). Anything to keep me busy in order to take the pressure off him...