Separation, Moved back in, still ILYBNILWY Part 2

[purgatory]

Sounds like a great night... Very relaxed. I think it was great that you did those chores and she acknowledged it. I'm guilty to of tryingto figure out where crappy moods come from- usually it makes him more mad when I ask. I've learned that if there is something involving me that he's upset with, he'll talk to me. Think about this: you said she told you about the H coming back to the friend in the office (and she was sheepish when she told you)... It has to make her question her choice. Up until that day, she had probably felt comfortable with her choice b/c she knew of another person that was doing the same thing. But now, as far as she's concerned, she's the only WAS that she knows... And it never feels good to be alone. She can't say: "well I know I'm leaving, but so-and-so is doing it too." Her 'bad mood' could just be her way of pulling inwards and thinking/questioning her actions.

My H has always been a 'pacer' can't seem to sit still for very long. It used to drive nuts that he would wander around the house while talking on the phone.When he comes over now, all he wants to do is sit around: watching TV or playing vidoe games with S6. Not sure of this is a positive- in the sense that he sees our home as a place for relaxation, not anxiety anymore. Or if it's a negative b/c he feels like a guest here and doesn't see the need to get involved in anything.

It was nice of you to let her have some time to meditate, it must have been very relaxing if she fell asleep afterwards.