I used to feel guilty about my part in the demise of my M, but that's gone now. I am at peace, because I tried all I could to save it. In the end, there was no point, because I was the only one interested in the saving of it. I have apologized for any pain I have caused him, and now there is nothing more I can do. I hope you can get to that point. I feel free from all the negativity of our R.
Here's the thing gives me the edge on him ... I didn't run to someone else. I tried to work it out. Now, I'm not interested at all.
There is no point in feeling guilt for something you probably had no control over. But, I understand how you feel ... I did too, for a long, long time. Just let it go, but I know it's difficult. It takes time, but I'm here to tell you, that time will come, when you will hardly think of him, and you won't waste time worrying about what you could've, should've, might've, would've done had you known he felt this way or that way.
Take care. Try and live in the moment ... it's all any of us have.
PS His new wifey doesn't trust him, 'cause she knows what he's capable of doing. He did it to you, he could do it to her. I wonder how long he's going to let her have the choke chain around his neck?
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim