Thanks guys, I really appreciate your input and your support.
This is really hard... I feel almost too weak to handle much more.
And I have been racking up L fees!
Today I got a call from the bank saying they were sending in the debt collectors as the last monthly payment hadn't been made. H had told me he'd paid this, but obviously was holding off to see if I'd agree to buy a second car.
When I texted him to ask if we could pay it, he just said 'No' and that this was 'a consequence of my choice not to do as he said about the cars'.
L said we can start proceedings against him, ask for an emergency hearing and get an injunction, etc.
But how on earth can one come back from this level of interaction??? My H holds a grudge like no-one else, and if I took him to court, that would be it.
He rang today specifically to tell me that there was absolutely no chance that we'd ever reconcile after today and that my behaviour over the cars had shown him that I hadn't changed at all. That is, I still want my own way.
Seems to me like I'm pretty much damned if I do and damned if I don't here.
But then, H brought S13 home from school and stayed to help with homework, as I'd asked him to do earlier in the day (S is having problems with school work).
I acted 'as if' Mother-Theresa-style and H was very nice - even to the point of fixing a blocked drain in our bathroom sink.
As he left, I asked him for some cash as my account was down to 0 (as he knows, having emptied it so I can't pay the mortgage). So he handed me $100.
