And it is my Birthday tommorro Happy Birthday... have not told the kids and do not expect anything from her. I wish you had told the kids so they could experience giving...but instead, since it's too late for that now,
why not invite them to a mini-celebration of your own? Go to a movie or dinner or at least ice cream, and tell them they are the "best gifts" you could ever have, etc...
don't bother inviting w unless you feel awkward not doing so...
This way YOU Take charge of the day--it's the start of you GAL and not basing your happiness on what she does or does not do.
One birthday I openly pre-planned to go skydiving b/c---b/c I always wanted to. I found a place 20 min from here!
That week , h decides he wants to join in (lots of excitement was building) and so does oldest d...(D jumping actually scared me way more than mine)
It was MY day and it went just how I wanted it to go & I really could not be disappointed.
I was surprised h joined b/c he's not usually the type. But we all enjoyed it & it was bonding too.
Given the stances, treating it as just another day with my WAS/MLC W.
Expect nothing from her, but you will NOT feel good if you deny yourself any & all celebration...it's too much martyrdom you are teaching the kids.
And it's a fun thing for the kids too...heck, if you are a cake eater (I mean literally ) then get a cake & eat it--sharing of course. Hope your son feels better.
If he doesn't, then use his illness as a reason to DELAY/PLAN your birthday activities this weekend or when he's better. Plan WITH the kids as if it is their party too.
Be in charge of your day/life/happiness...this is an opportunity to show CHANGE in you, FOR you.
Make sense?
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) then get a cake & eat it--sharing of course. Hope your son feels better.