You summarized very nice and neat and in a little package the situation I am in. The purpose of my 180's in not too "show her up," but are rather my choices to change behaviors in myself to make me a better person.
I am approaching day 3 of my S10 illness. Ended up taking S to the clinic and the DR said another day at home. Told the W I can and would be able to stay at home. W just started this job less than 6 months ago, would not want to do anything to jeapordize that. Was concerned that if I did this, that I could not help on Friday, said no problem, that this is not an issue. Tension is back up and has said very little too me, went to bed.
Mind you W called 4 times this afternoon concerning the car and S10. I ended the conversations.
I am trying to do GAL activities that are "kid friendly" things that we have been wanting to do for a long time. Always ask the W if she wants to join along.
The last two days at home with kids have been hard, and the last week of having primary care for them has challegned me in ways that I have not been challenged in awhile.
W yesterday was helping me and initated conversation. Perhaps today, I am making to big of a deal about her lack of communication. It shouldn't bother me how she is acting, I have been going above and beyond for the kids. My relationship with them is getting stronger and in the end that is what matters.
I do think she is miserable and my instinct is too confront her and "try to get to the bottom of things." Thing is I am realizing that the "things" bothering her are hers. Nothing I say will change that at this point.
When does one know when they should/can/ever expect their partner to help with the work and eventually the M?
