Word of wisdom and to live by

[~ kd ~]

Many of us have probably seen this one, it bears repeating (as I do so under Fair Use - Education):

I Have Learned

I’ve learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can ...do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them;

I’ve learned that no matter how much I care, some people just don’t care back;

I’ve learned that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.

I’ve learned that you can get by on charm, for about fifteen minutes. After that, you’d better know something;

I’ve learned that either you control your attitude or it controls you.

I’ve learned that no matter how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take it’s place.

I’ve learned that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you’re downhill are the ones to help you get back up.

I’ve learned that sometimes when I’m angry I have the right to be angry.

I’ve learned that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.

I’ve learned that just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to doesn’t mean that they don’t love you with all they have.

I’ve learned that maturity had more to do with what types of experiences you’ve had and what you’ve learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you’ve celebrated.

I’ve learned that your family won’t always be there for you.

I’ve learned that no matter how good a friend is, they’re going to hurt you every once in a while.

I’ve learned that it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to forgive yourself.

I’ve learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken, the world doesn’t stop for your grief.

I’ve learned that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.

I’ve learned that just because two people argue, it doesn’t mean they don’t love each other. And just because they don’t argue, it doesn’t mean they do.

I’ve learned that we don’t have to change friends if we understand that friends change.

I’ve learned that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.

I’ve learned that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will get hurt in the process.

I’ve learned that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don’t even know you.

I’ve learned that it’s hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people’s feelings and standing up for what you believe.

~ Author Unknown

[~ kd ~]

A new quote from one of my mentors which I feel is relevant to DBing:

"When people took Darwin's theory's and used "survival of the fittest" to justify their domination and impoverishment of others, Darwin's reply was very interesting, in essence he said the fittest is not the most aggressive or strongest but the fittest were those species that are most able to adapt to change.

In the past we have measured success by material wealth and power. Adaptable to change means we include in success not just abundance of material things, but health, love, friendship, peace of mind and joy. Being adaptable means understanding that with these as criteria we serve ourselves and the planet."

[Grmpy_Mnky]

Darwin is a fav.

One that I have always liked from Darwin:

"Ignorance more frequently begets confidence than does knowledge".

[~ kd ~]

Just saw one that I thought was quite thought provocative:

"Emotions are the fuel of life. The quality of your experiences depends on the quality of your emotions."

[~ kd ~]

What is the difference between Sympathy and Empathy?

While the dictionary definition may vary, I've heard them best described as follows:

Sympathy - Feeling sorry for someone and taking ownership of their problem, thereby trying to solve a problem that does not belong to us.

Empathy - Understanding the feelings of someone and trusting others to solve their own problems.

If one does not trust others, what does that say about oneself?

What fears might be driving us to not trust others, so that we can empathize with them and truly BE WITH them...?

[Autumn Leaves]

Wow these are great, thank you for posting them KD!

[~ kd ~]

thanks, autumn...

just thought of another one... regarding trust...

Trust -> Believing

Believing -> Faith

Faith -> Freedom

therefore...

Trust -> Freedom

[~ kd ~]

Something to ponder on our journey through life... In the form of a child's game of "Would you rather...":

Would you rather:

+ have people lie to you and stroke your ego and pretend to be something and someone they are not in order for you to like them and spend time with them...

or...

+ have people be honest with you, even if it is harsh and might sting, and be true to themselves and be who they truly are, whether you like them or not?


As we consider the above... consider this...

Are you being to others... as you'd rather they be, as noted above?

[stillhopin]

I feel the biggest statement, is to stop playing the victim.

Courage and strength are traits people want to be around forever NOT the "Woe is me."

We get into the latter when the bomb drops, but to move forward you have to become the former.

Just my .02.

Excellent - DB'ing in a nutshell?

This so true!!!! This is a huge lesson I needed to learn!

[~ kd ~]

JustStunned posted a great quote by the one, wise Buddha... similar to the quote 25yrsmlc posts from time to time, as to how acts of anger are often destructive to us:

(paraphrased) "Acting out [in a negative / destructive way towards someone in retaliation] is like setting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes."

So as similar, the following:

"Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned." -- Siddhartha Buddha