"I want my wife to express her thoughts to me"

Not your call so stop "wanting". It doesn't do you any good. Work with what you have now and not what you want.

"I want her to be away so she can focus on her issues"

Again, if she was gone who says she's going to focus on her issues? She could do the exact opposite.

"W might describe me as critical "

As long as you keep talking about what YOU want, you are being critical.

M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER