I personally call OW "That Hillbilly from Arkansas". But I hate to be mean to hillbillies and or folks from Arkansas.
I actually still miss my friendship with OW. I was reading the Borderline Personality stuff. And that is what she is. And darn good at it! She certainly had me fooled.
And yes, who knows what lies she was told. My H has told me so many lies I just can't believe it. I feel he has treated her and me badly. If he really wanted out of out marriage I wish he would have had the integrity to say he was done.
Not keep me hanging for the past 14 years while he decided what to do. And I believe he has a bit of the Borderline Personality thing himself. On that one site the author says she doesn't hate BP folks, just the fact that they refuse to seek treatment!
My H wants to give me the cash from the sale of the house and he will keep his IRA's. I would get that all in writing, even if the D wasn't final. I will most likely take the boat, too. And he would get some cash.
As someone else brought up on another thread: The WAS has put a lot more thought into the money aspect that we can ever guess. Probably why they don't walk sooner.....
I was just measuring furniture and deciding what would fit in 1000 sf. Not much!
I have a funny feeling I have more stuff than I need. And H will be wanting more than he thinks when he figures out how much it will cost to ship OW's stuff back from Arkansas.
She is staying with her 1st H and his mother in their old house, which she still owns half of.... And telling everyone how her mean H dumped her for no reason.
OH WELL!
Seminole: I was having a bad morning. I looked at myself in the mirror and I saw a pretty nice person. And it made me sad, because I haven't been seeing that person for awhile. So I turned on some music and danced while I picked up the amazing mess my granddaughters made for the hour they were here earlier! Keep that nice person around!
I have this funny thing that happens. I wake up in the morning, and am thinking about life, plans and stuff. Then I remember what is really going on and think BLAH. So this morning I just said, so what, live in the moment, don't worry about crap.
My grandkids got here while I was still in my PJ's. I love no-notice hospitality checks! So I got dressed and made my bed. My oldest granddaughter is so confused by me sleeping in the guest room. So she reasoned it out that I sleep in both beds. (I don't even try to explain, because I don't understand!)
Okay, back to work!
Much Aloha To You ALl!
Wendy
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
