Well said fig Took the words right put of my mouth. I'm getting too frustrated to post. Enough about the excuses. Do something. For someone who tells his ex he wants her to be happ with new guy - you don't seem to feel that way really. Cut the contact & do what needs to be done. Actions & words news to match up here. Stop asking for advice without heeding all the great advice you've been given already Barb
It is well said, and under circumstances different from mine, one might be able to do just that. Frustrated? I'm frustrated too! I feel I'm doing all I can do 'under these particular' circumstances. Facts are "excuses" to some who aren't involved or aware of the particulars here...that's NOT to say that I don't appreciate input. I do! I don't understand how you can deduce that I don't feel the way I say I do regarding her happiness. Cutting the contact seems prudent...doing "what needs to be done" is easier said than done in this particular instance. Do you doubt that I love my son? Do you not think that I'd do anything that I thought I could in order to help him? Really! I'm certainly not mad at you folks who offer advice...on the contrary, I appreciate the feedback/advice more than you know. But I feel some of you get frustrated/mad at me if I don't heed it. It is not a cut and dried situation. There are particulars to this situation that are different from others. Those have to be taken into consideration. They're not excuses. They're facts. I don't like it anymore than you guys do. The best action that I can see here, now, today is...since I've already done all I can to encourage her cooperation (and she's refused so far)...to just back off. Stop texting her, and stop texting him (even though my counselor has continually told me that I need to stay in touch with him). I've got so many well intentioned people telling me things that are completely opposite of each other that I myself don't know what to do! If advice from different well intentioned people is 180 degrees completely opposite of the advice from other well intentioned people, as I believe everyone involved is...then I confess...I'm pretty confused about what the best course of action is!
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
