Hey Gunny. I saw a post regarding dating while going through this. A very wise poster answered it this way or I think. When you are trully ready to say good bye to your famiy, W and M you are ready. But if you have an ounce of hesitation and hope to return to theR. You are not.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
Gunny, just checking in on you. I think you'll do the right thing and you'll know when it's the right time to date. I think when that angst about dating goes away, you're getting pretty close to the right time.
I was pondering the dating question myself. And since we are the same age I will ask the tough question: How young is too young? I had a 26 year old good looking guy ask me out. (I think he might have forgotten his glasses, too.) I was flabergasted! I brushed him off, but am pretty sure he was just looking for a booty call.
I am not ready to date. But I can say I'm looking at the world around me differently now. I never used to check out if a guy was wearing a wedding band. Now I do look. Maybe I am just practicing my situational awareness more? Maybe I am wondering what the future holds. I certainly will have a whole different check list of what I consider acceptable should I fail at this DB.
Many on here write about not needing someone, liking to be alone. So I have been thinking about that. And I guess I just enjoy having a friend to hang around with.
So anyway, back to how young is too young...... I heard the formula is half your age plus 7. Of course I hear this from my H.
Aloha,
Wendy
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
Gunny, I am not ready. For now I am getting out more, practicing being friendly and making an effort to smile. I attempt to engage strangers and get a smile or a bit of friendly conversation. It is unfamiliar ground for me to traverse alone. Baby steps.
Digression: I will speak to my ophthalmologist to see if Lasik will help; for the other day I added laser grips to a weapons purchase simply to compensate.
Imagine my consternation when I sighted through the iron sights only to realize I could see the target clearly, but the front and rear sights were a total blur. Semper Fidelis
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
Thanks Lady, I think you are right, although I have been out of the dating thing(like most of us), for a long time. Just going out with a female friend after my wife left was a way different experience
m 54 XW 48 m 12 t 14 bomb 6-11 s 10-11 wife moved to other state 10-21-11 d 9-12
O GOD THY SEA IS SO GREAT AND MY BOAT IS SO SMALL!
Hey Stunned, good to hear from you. Hate when that happens! My brother just deployed to Bagram this week. Dropped him off at Dix last Monday. The amount of gear he was taking was amazing, much more then we ever had. The body armor they are wearing now is mind boggling, way, way more sophisticated then the plain old flack jackets we had!
Continue to lean forward my friend! Semper Fidelis!
m 54 XW 48 m 12 t 14 bomb 6-11 s 10-11 wife moved to other state 10-21-11 d 9-12
O GOD THY SEA IS SO GREAT AND MY BOAT IS SO SMALL!
Hello Weniki, Good question on the age thing. I have always dated women who were younger than me, usually by 6-10 years, but that was before I got married. For me, all things beging equal, I probably would not date anyone younger than 35, mostly because I dont know what we would talk about, they probably wouldnt know any of the old movie stars, music, or even history. Hiking and running can only take you so far, at the end of the day, they have to be able to carry on a conversation.
But I agree, it would be nice to have a 26 year old ask me out!! Can't see it happening though, but you never know.
Hope you are well, Gunny
m 54 XW 48 m 12 t 14 bomb 6-11 s 10-11 wife moved to other state 10-21-11 d 9-12
O GOD THY SEA IS SO GREAT AND MY BOAT IS SO SMALL!
So anyway, back to how young is too young...... I heard the formula is half your age plus 7. Of course I hear this from my H.
I just did the math. For me that comes out to be 29. Sweet!
I'm with you gunny - I don't know how practical that would be. Maybe starting a new family would be easier than merging two families? Oh well, it's not where I'm at right now. Just nice to think about when I'm at a low point.
