[bA]nd of course he also said that even if he WERE to change his mind, that he would think I would hold this over his head and try to make him feel guilty[/b]. wow, what a great insight he shared with you! (BTW why did you start with "of course"....why "of course"?)
So you had the opportunity to show him you are capable of forgiveness! This is key b/c he won't come home if he believes you'll throw this in his face in every fight or hold it over his head forever....
What did you SAY to that comment of his?
And If you are truly not capable of forgiveness or don't want to try, then let him go now and suffer no more.
Forgiveness is mandatory, And not easy to do.
It's a learned skill & a process you will both have to learn and do.
How was forgiveness modelled in your childhood?
How did your parents resolve conflict and show forgiveness?
How did they discipline you when you made a bad choice? So basically, he is done with me and I can't do anything about it but protect myself and sadly deal with it.
that is not true and it's a cop out (b/c now you can say "well, I 'tried' but there was nothing I could do so why bother trying?").
If you really believe that, then why post here?
Dig DEEPER UN...asap.
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