Everything has a season

[JustStunned]

@Rick:Trust , yes and putting ourselves in conducive situations.

@Gunny: Ack, those emails were from my W, the person I am dealing with now is the alien, and the fever must run its course, I have done all I could or knew to do.
Semper Fidelis

@Val: Truthfully pressing her to hurry the D through would have been a tactic and would have likely left me bitter and more than a little angry. A friend of a friend took this tack and the outcome is neither pretty nor productive.

Journaling: At the end of February I took the box of W’s personal items that have meaning to her and left them at her Aunt’s house. It was another instance of Daniel in the lion’s den. W was not present and her Aunt pushed on a few buttons. I chose to leave after my business there was complete and went about the remaining business of the day. I suppose not reacting is an action in itself.

Several days later I received an email from W expressing surprise about receiving our children’s pictures, then pressing for additional items, her sewing machine, and a sewing kit she inherited from a great Aunt. This is silly and mundane, but I will detail it here anyway.

When W graduated HS her parents purchased a sewing machine for her as a graduation present. It did not function well and W lost interest in it. This graduation present was sold at a tag sale. We later received a sewing machine as an anniversary present. It functioned and I use it to make the occasional repair, like fixing a hem or a seam that has let go.

I decided I will keep the machine and explained why. I also explained I have no idea where her great Aunt’s sewing kit is. She responded that she forgot what happened to her graduation present and was just checking to see if I would give her the machine she remembered. She will also check her storage unit and with the family she placed items at to see if they can locate the sewing kit. She surprised me with the civility of her email.

During the entirety of our marriage W would mention slights her parents had visited upon her. One of these related to a set of silver plated candle sticks she insisted her parents stole from her. I have a concern the sewing kit will become the candles sticks as W speaks to our children and grandchildren in the years to come. I have decided if I believe she is making an issue of it to purchase a replacement, stock it and give it to her. The whole thing probably will not come to more than a few hundred dollars if that and if doing so gun decks the issue it’ll be well worth the expense.

My cousin drove up from KY last week and we spent a day together. He needed a place to crash and I helped him remove some storm damage from a friend’s house the following day. All tolled we spent about a day together. It is odd, last year I spent more time with him hunting out of state and went home without a thought about it. This time perhaps because he stayed at my house I was lonely for a couple of days after. Nothing dramatic, just odd.

I spoke to my son last weekend; his little girl is only waking once during the night now. She will be two month old in a few days. I told him he was lucky and to appreciate his blessings. He told me W and her Aunt will visit for the first time in a few days. This caused a few moments of envy for me, but I managed to wish him a good visit with his mother. He laughed and told me he and his wife planned upon taking full advantage of the baby sitting service offered.

Barring further complication the D will be final on April 3rd. I am at a good place emotionally for the most part. Not healed, but better. Last night mom told me to get out there and start dating, to go find another woman. I told her it will be awhile yet before I will be able to trust like that again.

In the mean time Daytona has run, Spring training has started, the sugar bushes are cooking, and the drakes near the pond have staked out territory. Though the red wings have not arrived yet the season of renewal is close, time to move past last year and make it a good summer.