Wendy, I'm glad you went w/your friend to do some bedroom shopping. I'm sure her room will look beautiful once she's found the headboard, etc. That's wonderful news if she doesn't require chemo.
Yes, you have put up w/alot this past year. Once you make up your mind about doing things for yourself and turning the focus back on to you, I think you'll begin to feel better. It's always nice to have some plans ready to be put into place.
As for your h being alone, none of them can be alone for very long. Your h has a lot of work to do....
Take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.