Where to next?

[MichelleLT]

First, good job!!!!!!!!!!

Second....did you tell him that you aren't looking for M, just something more defined and committed, or is it possible he thinks you are looking to make it legal again? Because if that's the case, I don't think you two are on such different pages as it might have sounded.

Third, WII hit it right on.

Second, men really s@ck at the "R talk" and not having an answer to a question you've had virtually minutes to process is IMHO not unusual. Men are often thinking that the R talk means they are in trouble so our minds are clicking thinking "how do I get out of this mess" We're thinking survival, not really honestly thinking through the sitch. Men need time to process and respond otherwise you get stuff that reflects the thought of a few nano seconds versus real honest to goodness thought out answers. Anyway lastly, do any of us ever know from one day to the next what the other is going to do? We all thought we had "commitment" and look how it turned out for most of us here! So, he's there and that's where he wants to be. He's not saying he's here till something better comes along, he's here!

You may see changes with him over the next few days as he processes this convo even if he doesn't come back and talk to you about them.

And finally, GOOD JOB!!!!!!!