General guidelines is to not respond, or do so selectively, when she contacts you. If it's about the kids, ok. Otherwise let her start to feel your absence.
If she really needs to get a hold of you she will try. Otherwise it's sort of this weird "touchstone" thing where the WAW wants to leave and be on her own, but at the same time wants to know you're there still as her security. It's like this line straddling without committing one way or the other.
Now I realize there are issues in your R where perhaps you haven't been there for her. But you can address that through action. Taking care of the kids, participating in finances, being invested in your family... having small talk chats on the phone isn't that.
The other general rule is end convos on your terms. Whether that's a text exchange or a phone call. Be the one to end it, don't leave her that power.
Married 6 together 8 Me:38 W:31 second marriage for both SS12, SD10, S6 Bomb: 9/8/11 (day before our 5 yr ann) W moved out: 2/18/12 D final: 11/12/12 Share S 50/50. Spend as much time as I can with SS & SD
