It's been awhile, so I'd have to go back and read some of your old posts, but I your update just jumped out at me.
I can GUARANTEE you that your wife sees you as SUFFOCATING her right now. Your "do you want me to leave the kitchen?" and doing all the household chores, and "I made a commitment to you and I will honor that commitment" and "will you tell me how you feel so we can work this out," etc., etc., as WEAK, SUFFOCATING, PURSUING, and . . . ANNOYING.
Is that fair? No, it's not. You're obviously a good guy, and care very deeply for your family. But your wife isn't in the same place as you right now, and you need to accept that. LET HER GO. No, I'm not advocating that you file for divorce, but you need to love her enough to emotionally ACCEPT what she's telling you, and EMOTIONALLY let her go.
Not only are your words and actions suffocating her, she is very likely LOSING ATTRACTION for you by these supplications.
If you doubt me, just ask the women on this forum for their reactions. This is really no different than the wife who asks her husband "Where do you want to go to eat on our date tonite?" and the husband says "I don't care, whatever you want is fine with me." He THINKS he's being "easy to deal with," and "nice," but in fact women DETEST this!!!
I'm busy at the moment, but I'll try to go back and find some alternative "scripts" for you for situations like this. But they start with "Honey, I need to apologize to you. You've been trying to tell me something, and I haven't really been listening, and I certainly haven't respected what you're trying to tell me. And to be honest, I'm not sure I want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me . . . "
food for thought.
Starsky
Agree ^^^
I must say that I was cringing at some of the things you say to your W. Very pursuing and shows way too much weakness. Women are repulsed by weakness, I don't care what we "say," we hate it.
