I feel like there are people in life who can't seem to be moral--and they want to use other people because it's easier than actually facing themselves. And just like my XH, this woman can't be helped by me. In fact, the more I try to help, the more she seems to defend what she is doing.
This is what I see my ex doing exactly. The funny thing is she knows she is making mistake after mistake and they just can’t seem to stop. My ex even had the nerve to tell me that she knows we should put our family back together, how much she misses and loves me and the next day she starts dating another guy. I got tired of the lies and I have learned that no matter what they say, they just can’t seem to do anything against their thoughts. My ex was good and said all the right things to make me think she was really trying to do the work to fix her issues. The best thing for me was to remove myself from the drama. When they finally figure this stuff out, I think they see all the damage and just can’t look at themselves in the mirror. My ex was the most non selfish person that I had ever met now she is the most selfish person on this planet. Even my kids complain about how selfish she is in life.
I have met plenty of divorced women and I see several that seem to be going through this same thing. It’s like an epidemic or something and I just don’t understand how these people can’t see it in themselves. It’s sad that I see it in men and women alike. The need it now thing really disgusts me as I look at society. What they really need is to fix what’s broken inside. Self medicating and OP are never going to fix what’s wrong. It’s sad that most LBS learn this and the WAS just pinball through life.
Cool thread have a nice day.
Me 44 W 38 M 18 D 18 D 13 Bomb 10/21/2010 Divorced 7/19/2011 Just getting to the 7th inning!
