WAW roomate is telling me she is moving out..

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Well a lot has happened. My FIL was diagnosed with colon cancer and he had surgery last week. My w seems to be warming up to me. Then Last night my W tells me that she wants to replace the kitchen cabinets. My w then states that she will be calling a real estate agent to sell the house. I told my w that I agree we can fix up the house but I don't want to sell the house. My w stated that she can not live like this anymore. I stated I agree I want a different R. My w was visibly upset I asked her do you want me to leave the kitchen. My w was agitated with me there. My w stated that she did not want me to leave and that we needed to talk.

My w told me that every thing I do in the house aggravates her. From washing the dishes to cooking dinner. I again asked should I leave the kitchen. I don't want u to feel like that in your own home. My w asked me do u think I hate u. I said it kind of looks like that to me. My w asked why do u stay when I am like this. U must hate me. I said in all honesty I am trying to understand u. I still care for u and this past year. I don't hate u. I do hate some of your actions. I made a commitment to u and I will honor that commitment.

I asked my w since we both want out of this limbo state why don't we go to mediation. My w said no she does not want to involve anyone else. Funny how she said that a year ago and went and got a lawyer.(I digress)

I asked her if there was someone else. My w stated no. I asked could u be happier with someone else? My said yes. Would our kids be happier? My w teared up and said that it is not fair to bring up the kids. My w said that I use them. I told my w that I am thinking of them first. That is why I don't want to sell the house. I see how happy they are with u and me living under the same roof. My w stated that she loves to see the kids happy with their dad. My w said that she does not want to take the kids away from me. I said that if we sell the house we both will see the kids half the time. I don't want that and I know u do not want that. Can u honestly tell me how u feel so that we can work this out. I do want u to feel better and I do want u to be happy. I want the kids to be happy. My w stated that this is still going on too long. she feels that she needs to do something to end it. My w still feels that she wants a D.

My d wanted to dance with me so I had to end the talk. To be continued.